HOW BULLIES ARE CREATED

Well, it's been way too long since my last post but school is in week number 2 and it KILLS me to see all the bullying stories that have already hit the news.  This one, in particular, in Connecticut.  This child was so close to getting out of the "hell" that high school can be for someone who is different. This caused me to want to see what studies have been done regarding "how" a bully is made.

I have 1st hand experience with this as I was on both the receiving and giving end of bullying.  My personal story is just that I was tired of being picked on for being short, wearing glasses, being in the band & a goodie 2 shoes "churchy" kid.  These, of course were the names that were given to me by my bullies.  My Martial Arts training fortunately put an end to all of that, not to mention that fact that I did not go looking for trouble too much.

I wanted to look at something that I some don't think about.  Do PARENTS create bullies.  I feel like Dr. Joel Haber hits best on all the topics that I have seen as both a victim, a bully and a martial arts coach who dealt with the children (and adults) who were both victims and bullies.   I hope you will take a little time to read through this article and meditate about the messages, both direct and indirect that we all as parents are sending to our children.  

As always, "Be the change you want to be"

Coach McKey 

CLICK HERE TO READ DR HABER'S ARTICLE